Slug Bug Green

So here it is...our very own '66 VW Bug. Who knew life would come full circle? Dan's first car was a bug. A little beat up, painted rims, could see the asphalt when you looked down & eventually stolen for parts BUT a Bug nonetheless. More importantly, it had an owner with the vision to fix it up. My first car was a Bug also. White convertible with black top (great for blasting early 90's rap-Yikes & U2) which basically turned into a carpool vehicle for my sisters & friends. When I met Dan, he informed me (after our relationship was secure) that my Bug was a horrible year & didn't really count from a vintage stand point. I have to say after some VW education, I agree. 1979...My Bug's identity was a little conflicted:) Needless to say, here we are now, the proud owners of a classic...wooden rack and all! It has been our second family car for a little over 4 years. It's fun to cruise around in. We have enjoyed date nights cruising down to Pedro's Tacos, day trips on PCH & the ever popular evening at Balboa (kids favorite & we always fit into a parking spot). I especially love how traffic just politely understands. It's as if everyone on the road acknowledges, "Hey, we know you were made for cruising, that you have a limited speed & therefore we will put aside our impatient & rushed driving skills and just... go around you. We might even glance over & smile." Now, I never get that reaction in the Sub (little insight into OC living) It serves us well, our little daily driver. It was possibly up for a promotion when the Sub died...thankfully it was resurrected, so that pressure was removed. BUT it's gotta last because the boys have dibs on it for when they can drive. Olivia wants to drive one too, except hers has to be "rainbow sparkle"-double Yikes! Sooo... Slug Bug Green! The game lives on...

Carpinteria... Take Me Away!

So... I fell in love with camping... mind you it's "foo-foo camping", but camping nonetheless. We have upgraded from the camping gear we received for our wedding (tent, sleeping bags & stove) to a well-loved hand me down of a tent trailer (now owned by some precious friends who cherish Carp as we do) and finally to a new tent trailer in 2004 (after proving to ourselves that beach camping was the life for us). We affectionately refer to it as "Our Beach House". We are particular though as to where we camp and have to say that our favorite spot is Carp! For the longest time the kids thought the only beach nearby was Carpinteria... ironically we live 15 minutes from the ocean, but it's just NOT the same. We began camping 4 to 5 times a year (Veteran's Day, Valentine's/Presidents Weekend, Easter, July & August). So glad I married into a family with camping traditions. Traditions that have, over the past fourteen years, become our own and made some of our best memories with precious friends. Around this time every year, I start to feel the need to get away. There's only one place I want to be... and these are just a few of my favorite reasons why... not to mention there's an amazing church around the corner from the campsite!!!

Beautiful sunsets on the beach with the ones you love!

The official spot for our Scrabble ritual and coffee!

Happy kids and Padero Grill!

Bike rides into town!

Farmer's Market & Candy Store!

Girly Mermaid time on the Beach!

Their own version of the Endless Summer!

Children who finally sleep in!!!

Great Family Memories!

Are we there YET???

Change is Good!?!

I've come to realize that I am a creature of habit & not so much the poster child for Try New Things. I used to think I was "with the times", "up to speed with reality" & definitely NOT "stuck in a rut" (all delusions I apparently told myself). Because when I turned 29, my dear friend & husband threw a surprise party for me. The invite was a rewritten version of The Sound of Music's These are a Few of My Favorite Things (adorable concept & spot on I might add) It got me thinking, could I have done that for any of my friends. I could compile a couple things for different people in my life, but not enough to complete the lyrics. Over time I kept seeing more and more ways I was such a predictable person. I have worn the same perfume since I was 16-Obsession (praise the Lord they still carry it & so much time has gone by it's not so scandalous anymore), the same lipstick since I was 18-MAC Spirit (I even asked the gal at the counter if there was a chance they wouldn't carry it anymore. She sensed my panic & answered me with "Ma'am, it was one of the first colors so I think your safe...we do have others?"), my hair has been parted on the left since forever (I tried it on the right one night & felt soooo just off), Pepsi is the only soda in my life (to the point if a restaurant serves Coke, I'll have water), every place we go to eat I will typically order the same entree/meal (my issue is will I enjoy the new choice as much as I know I will love what I always get?), not to mention favorite colors, flowers, places & things. Which when you think about it, if you always give the same answer, over time people will pick up on it. All this to say, that when change, in a big way came to our home, it wasn't welcomed at first. The kids were little (Olivia had just turned 1), I was still coaching & Dan was laid off from his sales job. The kicker was he really felt the Lord say not to go back into sales. I was like, "Really? Are you sure He said that?" He felt like God had something different for him & us. Our God is faithful to complete what He begins in our lives. If I didn't know that I know that His Word & promises are TRUE and had the prayer support I had (love my ladies), I don't think I could have embraced that year of change. There was amazing peace that carried us through me going back to work, Dan's handyman months, & us surviving the Academy. Now I can only sum up a year, that at the time seemed like an eternity, in two sentences because I'm reflecting on it & my opinion on change. We came out refined in so many ways, I wouldn't have had it any other way. And in that sense, change IS good. When whatever it is, presses you in to our Lord... embrace it...you'll come out of the fire shining! As to My Favorite Things...if it's not broke, don't fix it!?!

It Ain't Easy Being Green

You might think, given the current politically correct society we live in, that I am referring to protecting the planet. It's very much a trend... again, but not just in regards to waste. Everything you do should be "green". So "they" say. I'm all for living responsibly, but don't you just love it when the burden falls on the common man. So I drink from a water bottle. I recycle it. If it's really going to end the world, "they" should stop making them. Am I alone on this... anyone? Anyway, my original issue with green in our home is none other than the the Green Giant himself-vegetables! Now, I'm the first to admit (and those who know us will concur) that Dan and I don't have the widest food repertoire known to man. Mushrooms, onions and tomatoes don't usually make a showing in their purest state on our table. Although, we do enjoy their flavor in things. I think we both have issues with "chunks" (childish I know, but what are you going to do-at least we found each other) So, in attempting to feed our children, one has to know that we are offering a simpler menu than most. This is why the astonishment. The early signs were babies spitting out green baby food. People said, "Oh, that's just because it's baby food. Once they have finger food it'll be fine." So then, we reached the finger food stage and attempted to dip green veggies in almost anything. No success. So we try to disguise them in casseroles and what do my children do? They take a bite and then magically spit out the green part of the bite. How do they know? It's masked in creamy goodness. So we take parenting classes, research our peers techniques and then flounder our way through meal time. There's the "take as many bites as you are years in age" method. The setting of the timer-always accompanied by the child who watched in anguish as their fate ticked away. The "serve it to them for the next meal" -a personal favorite of mine. Especially when my child would come to the table and announce, "he'd be having this for breakfast". Wait... wasn't this supposed to be taking the control away from the child. How'd he just twist that? And lastly, the humbling admission of "just plain old losing it". I mean really. Eating shouldn't be this hard. I've come to the conclusion, there is no magic formula. Every meal provides new challenges and new discussions. I never know what will trigger what reaction. But what I do know is that I want peace at the table. So, now my precious husband dismisses them to their rooms. Oh they resist, eventually go, and then come back to ask "what they have to do to stay at the table?" "It's easy," we say... "Eat your vegetables!"

Children & How They Came To Be

We always knew we wanted children. We began praying about the timing of when to begin this adventure. It's funny. I often hear (or overhear) discussions about being "ready" for children. I can't help but smile and think, "Are you ever really ready?" You could have all your ducks in a row from a material stand point, but there is no preparing one's heart & soul for the roller coaster of human emotions to come. It does give you a sense of appreciation for those who have dared to go before-your own parents. Deep thoughts aside, we came to the conclusion, we were in the wrong tax bracket to travel the world, so... let's have kids. I was blessed with three wonderfully, uncomplicated pregnancies, worked up until the days I gave birth, and recovered more or less by the book. However, my deliveries were all quite different, just like the personalities of my three, now that I think about it...

• Child #1-Our steadfast, loyal, passionate Braden, who carries the weight of the world (classic first born) came into this world via a C-section. After 22 hours of option A (letting body naturally progress ) and B (pushing with drugs) not working, we had no choice-surgery-my FIRST ever! It's funny, we often refer to Braden as our "Option C" child (because of his own idea of how things are to be... we present him with A & B, then he picks C) and amazingly his entrance to the world parallels that. Everyone called him the "Little Man". He always looked grown-up. The irony is, in the here & now, he is beginning to become a little man. Really... already? I'm not ready:)
• Child #2-Our sweet surprise of a son, Ethan, who is ever keeping the peace (while trying to be the law), keeping up with his brother, and attempting perfection (doesn't like to make mistakes), came by VBAC with only 3 pushes. In retrospect, it seems fitting that he would attempt a textbook delivery. I can picture his little baby face with dimpled smile saying (in his present voice though), "Don't worry, I already knew how to do it." And he usually does. I have to remind him that I enjoy helping... Mr. Independent.
• Child #3-Our beautiful & fearless Olivia, who has a set agenda for each day, loves her "boys" more than life, and has one volume, came all by herself via VBAC. Yep, after pushing once, the doctor told me not to push, sat back and said "she's coming out on her own". One of her first phrases was " I do myself". Who knew? I can't imagine life with out her. We joked that she was "the softer side of the Neumanns"-human equivalent of a Sears commercial. In reality, she was. Our edges were softened and our family complete.

House, Home, Heaven

I believe it was Mrs. Collins who says, "Oh Lizzy, it's such a pleasure to run one's own home." I don't think I fully appreciated that statement until just a few years ago. When we started out, like most couples, there was the apartment. We had registered, received gifts and had an idea of how we wanted our place to look. Then wake up to realize you can't afford your own taste and begin the art of "making things work". It's funny how in the beginning, the focus is on how things look. After being in our current home for almost 8 years, the focus is now how things work. I remember purchasing a cutlery tray for a drawer, only to realize once we moved in, that we didn't have a single full size kitchen drawer to put it in. Our next move in the progression of real estate was to a Condo (needed room in order to consider having children). I now covet that second bath that we rarely used. So... second round of setting up house, had definite colors in mind, new what improvements would be down the line, and thoroughly enjoyed DIY projects. So many memories in that place... began to understand the meaning of "home", sweet fellowship with friends, and the births of Braden, then Ethan 18 months later (oh... the stories of carrying a sleeping toddler, baby in a carrier, diaper bag & groceries from garage in back of units to our unit upstairs in the front). Those were the "Super Mom" years. Believe me, I don't give myself that title. It's just that I look back and think how? But God... He is faithful to give what is needed for the moment... my moments often required strength... then rest:) Speaking of a toddler, he liked balls. More specifically, throwing balls off our balcony. When we saw he began to attempt to retrieve said ball, we knew we had outgrown our space. Third move required a yard, so we found a little place with big outdoor space. It was during those crazy real estate years. I would be sent to look at homes (only drive-by mind you), and by the time I called to say we wanted to see inside of this and that... they would be sold! It got to the point that I'd drive up, call Dan, say "well... it looks like it might be ok... let's make an offer"-without going inside. Both Dan & I have a pair of "rose-colored glasses". We had so much fun, and still do, making this house our home. A friend pointed out how she loved my tent trailer-everything had a purpose & a place. Then it hit me, I had embraced IT'S smallness and made it work, but not my house. From then on, I asked the Lord to show me how to embrace our small space. It's amazing how He helps me make the most of every square inch. Our space now also houses our daughter, Olivia and our dog, Clover. Even though there are times it feels like our house is bursting at the seams, it is what grounds us and gives us an eternal perspective. John 14 : 1-3

Coffee, Chocolate and Other Cravings

Coffee... legal addictive stimulant or just yummy comfort? Going with the latter. There's just something about starting your day with your personalized "Cup o' Joe"-Starbucks, apparently was on to something. This morning ritual of mine, didn't really start until my kids were in school. Coffee used to just be a treat or something to warm me up on an evening out. Then that moment came when I needed that warm mug between my hands and to have that first sip of "okay here we go". I have no issues with the paper cup (and I know my choice is a bit risky), but my favorite place to enjoy my moment in a mug is in the car, on the way to school. "Serenity now..." Then the fighting over who sits where and who saw which "slug bug" begins. But I have my coffee-Praise the Lord-so it's all good! This all came to mind because of two events. First, my boys made my instant "liquid gold" the other day for me... Surreal blessing! Second, we were OUT of coffee today... makes my head hurt. My universe wasn't altered, so I know I am not dependent on the stuff, but it got me thinking... about other cravings. For some reason what came to mind was my response when people used to ask me about my kids "Binkies" (especially Braden because he always looked older than he was-Olivia too now that I think about it) You know, the question that makes you feel like a bad mother because you allow your child who's walking to suck on a piece of rubber. I used to say while shrugging, "Well, don't we all have our comfort items. I mean really, I have chocolate. So he or she has a "Binky". I'm okay with that. If they still have it when they start school... we'll talk." Laughter was the typical response along with a nod indicating "point taken". I do love to bring humor into what could be sticky situations. Maybe that's why I love my coffee ritual. It brings a smile to my face and sweet comfort to my soul in the midst of what I commonly refer to as "Groundhog Day Mornings"! The Lord says everything in moderation... I think daily coffee qualifies... it's my grown-up, invisible "Binky"!